Tuesday, February 28, 2006
Dumb Ass Moment #1
So after leaving the office this afternoon, I went about with the usual routine of heading out to the gym for my run. I was still dressed in my office clothes and so obviously I had go to the women's changing room to change into my running clothes. Nonetheless, I get changed into my running gear and as I was leaving the changing room, this guy walked by me, glanced my way and kept walking. I turned right and followed him, thinking that he was heading out to the gym area. When I did this, he glanced back and gave me this really strange look. Well, it turned out I followed him into the men's changing room.
I
Am
Such
A
DUMB
ASS.
Sunday, February 26, 2006
"Revelations of a Single Woman"
I've been reading this book by Connally Gilliam called "Revelations of A Single Woman". No, it's not your typical chick-lit. And it's not one of your "feel good" books about singleness. Connally's book delves into the struggles of making sense of our fragmented selves and the feeling single people have, that we're "the leftovers" in a couples world. Normally I don't read these type of books, however two good friends highly recommended this book, and since one of them is friends with the author, it obviosly piqued my curiosity. I was pleasantlly surprised. Connally tackles the issue of unintentional singleness with something so fresh and true. Although I just started reading this book, I have found Connally to be insightful, raw, full of humor, and refreshing.
What has struck me with this book was how she described some of the experiences that I have felt but have never been able to put down with words. I can identify with her experiences because they have been my own experiences. The realization that I am not alone with my feelings of fragmentation and disconnecteness made me want to break down and cry. I am a fragmented girl living in a fragmented world and the scary thing is, I am taking on a scary resemblance to the girl before th emirror in Picasso's painting. I can almost see it. Maybe this splintering would no be a problem if I had people and friends around me who were constant, but as life would have it, things change. People move, friends marry, and others busily spin into other circles. Of course I try to keep in touch with some of the scattered ones, but still I need to make new connections in order to fill the gaps. This gets exhausting and I only have so much energy to pour out. And of course, the cycle inevitably begins. Connally poses the questions perfectly: How is God's desire for his children's wholeness connect with the world of scattered friends and fragmented lives in which so many of us live? Well, I think that God wants to lead me through this chaos and for me to trust that He wants to lead me and is capable of leading me.
Scary, this trust thing.
What also struck me, and although I know this deep down in my heart, is it's the Father who knows every part of my fragmented self. It's HIM who knows that committed communities fracture. It's HIM who knows when relationships change. It's HIM who knows that there are others like me, wandering around, sometimes lost, sometimes found, sometimes in circles. I need to continue to remind myself of this truth and believe that God is REAL, and like the Father in the story of the Prodigal Son, is compassionately running out to meet me to where I am. More to come.......
Thursday, February 23, 2006
Will You Please Find Me A Prom Date????
HHB: I'm really over Sanrio Girl. Seriously. I met someone else at my friend's party a few weeks ago.
Me: Sure.
HHB: Seriously.
Me: By the end of our conversation you'll end up saying "Oh, I still really like Sanrio Girl. She's so hot."
HHB: Really, I'm over her. This girl I met at the party, she's also hot. But the thing is, she's younger than me.
Me: How much younger?
HHB: She's a freshman. But she's a really hot freshman.
Me: So what's her name?
HHB: I don't know yet.
I wish I was there to smack his head. So through the course of our conversation I tormented HHB over the fact that he was "cradle robbing". The funny thing was, he had no idea what cradle robbing meant until I expounded on what the phrase meant. He thought it was funny. How funny? Well, here's his expression.........
I LIKE JAIL BAIT??Me: So, are you gonna ask Sanrio Girl to the prom or what?
HHB: I don't know. She's too hot.
Me: So I've heard. *Laughter ensues*
HHB: Why're you laughing at me?
Me: *Laughter continues* I'm laughing because this girl is seriously in another league. That's why it is your goal in the next few months to get her to agree to go to prom with you. *More laughter*
HHB: She IS in another league! She is SO hot.
Me: *Looks at cell phone and rolls eyes* What's the worse thing that could happen? She'll say no and you'll move on. When you look at the bigger picture this whole situation will be so minute that you'll look back on it and laugh. Trust me, you'll understand. *More laughter* I am so gonna blog this conversation!
I'M in a league of MY own!HHB: It's my 18th birthday tomorrow and my friends plan to take me to a strip club sometime this weekend.
Me: *Looks at cell phone and rolls eyes again* First of all you're underage, second of all I'm telling your parents, and lastly...how would you feel if your sister (remember TeenyBopper?) was on that stage and your buddies, along with some other sleazy, dirty old men were leering over her?
HHB: I won't think of my sister then.
Me: What would you do if Jesus were sitting right next to you?
HHB: *Silence.....*
*Side note: Sorry Uncle Andy, I really tried!*
At this point I really wished I could have smacked him a good one on the head.
Nonetheless, HHB was excited over the prospect of being the main attraction in one of my blog posts. Hence he preceeded to email me some recent pictures, begging me to post them. I told him that I would be asking people to find him a prom date. Either that, or give him some sound advice on how to win Sanrio Girl's heart.
And so folks, here you have it, HHB's birthday plea....
WILL YOU PLEASE FIND ME A DATE FOR THE SENIOR PROM?
OR AT LEAST HELP ME GET SANRIO GIRL TO GO WITH ME?!?!
Wednesday, February 22, 2006
I *Heart* Barry White
Spoken:
I've heard people say that
Too much of anything is not good for you, baby
Oh no
But I don't know about that
There's many times that we've loved
We've shared love and made love
It doesn't seem to me like it's enough
There's just not enough of it
There's just not enough
Oh oh, babe
My darling, I can't get enough of your love babe
Girl, I don't know, I don't know why
Can't get enough of your love babe
Oh, some things I can't get used to
No matter how I try
Just like the more you give, the more I want
And baby, that's no lie
Oh no, babe
Tell me, what can I say?
What am I gonna do?
How should I feel when everything is you?
What kind of love is this that you're givin' me?
Is it in your kiss or just because you're sweet?
Girl, all I know is every time you're here
I feel the change
Somethin' moves
I scream your name
Do what ya got to do
Darling, I can't get enough of your love babe
Girl, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know why
I can't get enough of your love babe
Oh no, babe
Girl, if I could only make you see
And make you understand
Girl, your love for me is all I need
And more than I can stand
Oh well, babe
How can I explain all the things I feel?
You've given me so much
Girl, you're so unreal
Still I keep loving you
More and more each time
Girl, what am I gonna do
Because you blow my mind
I get the same old feelin' every time you're here
I feel the change
Somethin' moves
I scream your name
Do what ya got to do
Darling, I can't get enough of your love babe
Oh no, babe
Spoken:
Baby, let me take all of my life to find you
But you can believe it's gonna take the rest of my life to keep you
Oh no, babe
My darling, I can't get enough of your love babe
Yeah, I don't know, I don't know, I don't know why
Can't get enough of your love babe
Oh my darling, I can't get enough of your love babe
Oh babe
I don't know, I don't know, I don't know why
I can't get enough of your love babe
Oh babe
Tuesday, February 21, 2006
Work-A-Holic Learns To Play
Today I actually arrived home at a decent hour, around 4:00 PM. *GASP* I know. Irishgirl nearly had a heart attack when she discovered that I got home before she did. My small group from church meets in East Falls every Tuesday evenings, but I decided to play hooky. *Double GASP* What did I end up doing with my free evening instead? Irishgirl cajoled me into going to happy hour at the local Irish pub we frequent. I tell ya, there is nothing like a nice, cold pint of beer and some buffalo wings.
Maybe I'll even live a litte tomorrow and play hooky from work. I think I feel a cold coming on.....
Wednesday, February 15, 2006
One Year. Yay.
Has it already been one year? Well to be specific, it's been one year and one day since I got sucked into the wonderful world of web-logs (how's that for alliteration?) ;) It's scary to think how one year flies by so quickly. I can still remember that evening when I wrote my first entry, sitting in front of my desk, trying to think of something clever and witty to write. Looking back to that first entry, one can see that was not the case. Although, I did try. Nonetheless, venturing into the world of blogs has been interesting, to say the least. I never thought that community could be built through blogs, but I've witnessed it firsthand through the various blogs I've had the privilege of reading and through the interactions that I have with my faithful readers.
In a sense, this whole experience has been somewhat therapeutic for me and looking back through various posts, I have been able to see God's hands at work in my life as He carried me through the ups and downs in this past year. I look forward to another new year of blogging, with a greater focus on God's goodness and fresh perspectives on life experiences.
And to paraphrase a good friend's quote......."I look forward to writing about a life that is not my own and pray that I will be the kind of water Jesus changes into wine."
Tuesday, February 7, 2006
He
This ought to make life somewhat interesting.
He has no idea of the chaos he is wreaking in my mind.
I wish he did.
I've been tagged!
Four Jobs that I have had:
1) Adoption Social Worker
2) High School Teacher
3) Family Support Worker
4) House Parent
Four Movies I could watch over and over:
1) You've Got Mail - I wanna be just like the story book lady. ;)
2) Under the Tuscan Sun - Let ME buy the villa in Tuscany!
3) Amelie - Parlez vous francais?
4) Pride and Prejudice (the A&E version) - HELLO Mr. Darcy! :D
Four places in the U.S. I like:
1) New York City - my most favorite city in this country!
2) Seattle, WA - Gotta love those flying fish guys!
3) San Francisco, CA - Fisherman's Wharf anyone?
4) The Oregon Coast - Preferably Florence
Favorite places I have vacationed: (Sadly, I haven't been to many places abroad except for Asia)
1) San Diego, CA
2) Miami, Fl.
3) Disneyland - California for course!
4) Montreal, Quebec - Je me souviens!
Four t.v. shows:
1) Lost - I'm gonna marry Jack one of these days. ;)
2) Ellen - She cracks me up!
3) The Office - 'nuff said
4) My Name is Earl - Can this guy get any dumber?
Four favorite dishes:
1) Sushi
2) Turkey Dinner
3) Mom's beef stew
4) Ice Cream and Brownies?
Four places I would rather be:
1) Hiking up a mountain
2) Living in New York City
3) Kayaking on the Indian Arm, in Vancouver, BC
4) Paris
Four sites I visit daily:
1) Email account
2) My blog and yours
3) Reuters
4) Christian Forums
Alright, the four lucky ones to be tagged are as follows:
1) Bougie - Do you dare to desecrate your blog? :P
2) Erin - My very cool friend who's been living in Israel for the last year. Check her out!
3) Zach - My soon to be fire fighter friend. He's cool. I think. ;)
4) Bill - This man is not ashamed to wear his heart on his sleeves. Awesome blog!
Sunday, February 5, 2006
Worthless Wretch
estimate of myself, but in the eyes of the One who loves me;
and that One must love me as I am, with my faults and
limitations revealing to me the truth that these faults and
limitations cannot destroy my worth in their eyes;
and that I am therefore valuable as a person, in spite of my
shortcomings, in spite of the imperfections of my exterior package."
On those days when I feel so wretched and unworthy, I am somehow reminded of this particular quote by Merton. Today was one of those days.
Thursday, February 2, 2006
Quick Peek
Just a quick glimpse;
Discovering that I am once again drawn
to the same pattern of comparison.
And there find my own inadequacies
rear their ugly heads.
Thursday, January 26, 2006
What the.....???
"This city will be a majority African-American city. It's the way God wants it to be... This city will be chocolate at the end of the day."
First of all, how the hell was this guy elected as mayor? And secondly, are you kidding me? Sure, New Orleans' racial makeup is predominantly African American, granted, I myself live in a neighborhood that is predominantly Latino and African American. However, I am disgusted by Nagin's statement and the underlying message that it conveys. My initial interpretation of Nagin's statement was this: "Black people only. Other races, stay out." I loathe racism and it is so sad to see a country as progressive as the USA continue to struggle with this cancer.
It turns out, at the end of the day, Nagin apologized and said that people of ALL races were welcome to return.
Gee, we should all feel so privileged.
Monday, January 23, 2006
Weekend with the Girls
The weekend was full. I Went on a spontaneous mini-weekend trip up to north Jersey with Irishgirl to visit a good friend (since she works as a chaplain at a hospital, we'll call her The Rev) who just moved up there this past summer from Atlanta. She was feeling pretty lonely and a little depressed when I talked to her on early Friday evening and so I decided to drive up there for part of the weekend to cheer her up. I was able to cajole Irishgirl to drive up with me early Saturday morning for a girly mini-weekend. We arrived at The Rev's place with a nice bottle of shiraz on hand to enjoy later on in the evening, ready for a day of girliness. We ate.... shopped.....we ate some more...... watched a chick flick..........gorged on chocolate fondue.........and enjoyed the myriad of libations. By the time Saturday came to an end, we were three very "happy" and content women. Good times.
(BTW, an added note......I will be away for a work conference starting tomorrow and will be gone until Wednesday evening. Just thought I'd give you all the heads up in case y'all start wondering where on the blogosphere I've disappeared off to.)
Wednesday, January 18, 2006
I EMBARRASS MYSELF
New neighbor boy saw the WHOLE ENTIRE THING!
I
WAS
MORTIFIED.
At this point I knew there was no way I could salvage my dignity and so I quickly stuffed the trash, tried to buy some time by placing the lid on the trash can, praying that new neighbor was already inside his house. After all that, I nonchalantly walked out of the alcove and of course, just as luck would have it, neighbor boy was STILL standing on his porch, in front of his door, looking over at me with this amused look on his face. And so with that, I beelined it towards our front door. I can only imagine what new neighbor boy was thinking. I ran upstairs, burst into Iowagirl's bedroom and relayed to her what transpired outside. I was laughing so hard that I could hardly breath. Iowagirl's response? "You're so embarrassing." And you know what? She's right.
Sometimes I can be so embarrassing that I don't even know what to do with myself.
Wednesday, January 11, 2006
Hazy Anger
At work I've been writing this child profile on this 18 year old kid who has been in foster care for about 4 years and has had 31 placements. Yes, 31 placements. The research I've done in this kid has resulted in this enormous stack of paperwork which I have been painstakingly scrutinizing in order to put his life history together. So far I have about 15 pages typed out. I'm expecting this profile to be about 25 pages when it's completed. The various reports, psychological/psychiatric evaluations, medical reports, and court reports on this child life indicates the type of hell that he's been through since he was born. I've written many child profiles over the last four years, almost too many to count, however this one has got to be one of the worst ones that I've had to write. Why? Because of the way it has affected my spirit, especially over the last few days. Last night I even had a dream that was connected to some of this kid's experiences. Generally I am very good at separating my work from my personal life, however this week has me all out of sorts.
Inside I am so outraged by family violence and how it affects children. The neglect and physical abuse of children anger me. And I am so enraged at sick perpetrators who prey on young children to satiate their sick sexual hunger.
I am just one individual who wants to save these children from an obviously sick world. But, I am just one individual.
I'm tired. I need to go to bed.
Monday, January 9, 2006
Guard Your Heart
So here I am moving on with life, thinking that things are hunky dory (yes, hunky dory), and then bam! Something happens which throws you off kilter. Well, that's how it was for me. And also one of the reasons for my silence this past week. I honestly do not know what to make of this situation.
Of course, it's about a guy.
What else would throw me off into this state that I cannot even comprehend myself?
He…..called…..me…..the…..day…..after…..I....arrived.
I suppose I could say that I was shocked. We talked for a while and caught up. Dialogue was somewhat erratic with him, which was probably due to his nervousness throughout the conversation. It was easy to pick out the unease in his voice. Crazy enough, it almost gave me this sense of control, knowing his apprehension and discomfort. But I’m not one to take advantage of another individual’s unease or discomfort. I won’t go into any boring details with the conversation or analyze it till the cows come home. The conversation ended on a friendly enough note, but of course it left me somewhat confused.
Tuesday, January 3, 2006
Travel, Empty, and Lonely
I am exhausted and feeling a myriad of emotions right now. Time spent with my family over the holidays bordered at about 10 on the intensity scale.
Tomorrow I'm back at the office and will be faced with voice mail and emails galore, along with the usual catch up with paper work after a ten day break from work.
I'm feeling so empty right now. Lonely.
Of course, in my head I know that God can fill those empty voids. But how do I believe it with my heart, which seems to be in this constant wretched state?
Sunday, January 1, 2006
See, I am doing a new thing......
Nonetheless, I won't bore the blogsphere with resolutions I probably will not keep by mid-January, however I will share what my hope and expectations are for this year:
He who made a way through the sea,
a path through the mighty waters.....
Forget the former things;
do not dwell on the past.
See, I am doing a new thing!
Now it springs up; do you not perceive it?
I am making a way in the desert
and streams in the wasteland."
Isaiah 43:16,18-19
Breathe in me new life and I will give You all the glory.
Barnes & Noble and The Bowling Queen
We went to the mall, which wasn't all that bad. FK has been on a shoe hunt and to date has purchased 3 pairs of skater-type sneakers. He's such a girl. HHB was his usual hormonal self, requesting that I refrain from walking too close to him so as to not "ruin his game". Typical adolescent behavior I suppose.
Later on we stopped by my regular haunt, Barnes and Noble, so I could pick up the Ansel Adams calendar that I buy at 50% off every year after Christmas. And of course, it was another typical adventure with HHB. I must say, the nickname I've dubbed him with is truly befitting of him. As I was roaming around the bookstore, there was HHB with a smirk on his face, walking towards me. I knew he was up to something. Something no good that is.
HHB: ".....can you please buy me a book?"
Me: "What kind of book?"
HHB: "Here, let me show you."
HHB leads me to a stand of hard cover books and of course, the book that he wanted me to "purchase" for him was the "50th Anniversary Edition of Playboy". I gave him a good whack on the head.
Afterwards, when we arrived home, HHB informed me that he was flipping through the book until he discovered that another customer started giving him weird looks. The little perv.
Later on, FK, HHB, TB, and I decided to go bowling. Well, that was another adventure in and of itself. I think bowling is a great way to study human interplay. From my experience with bowling, the group I'm with is usually worked up at the beginning of the game but towards the end of the 9th or 10th frame, there usually appears to be a decline in the group's hyperactivity. But I digress. I don't want to bore you all with the details of our exiting game, however I'll just share with you all how much we each scored after our second game. But for the record, I'll have you all know that I became the Bowling Queen last night:
HHB: 102 points
FK: 70 points
TB: 87 points (with the bumpers' help)
Yours Truly: 122 points. Thank you. Thank you very much. Oh, please....y'all can stop with the applause now. Seriously. Really. Thank you.
Saturday, December 31, 2005
Show and Tell
So here's the family looking all bright and cheery on Christmas morning. My 17 year old cousin, Hormone Happy Boy (HHB) is the one sitting in front with a black hoodie, leaning against me. My brother, let's call him Fetish King (FK) is sitting atop the stairs, sporting the nice shiny, shaved, bald head. The 19 year old who acts like she's 15, we'll call her TeenyBopper (TB), is the one blowing her cheeks out like a fish, tilting her head. Don't we all look like one big happy family?
Let me introduce my cousins' dog, Mickey, in the midst of the Christmas morning chaos. A lovely bichon frise, but the laziest dog I've ever met. You can usually find him either laying on the floor with all four legs splayed out or lounging around like some little prince on my aunt's leather couch in the living room. An interesting fact about Mickey.....I discovered first-hand that he has a penchant for urinating in my cousin's bathroom floor, right by the toilet. Yours truly blindly stepped on his little mess on the way to do some urinating herself.

The lovely Caesar's Palace Hotel in Vegas. Excessive and incredibly cheesy.
Driving over the Hoover Dam. From this picture's point of view it doesn't look much. But trust me, it's pretty massive.
And here we reach pinnacle of our trip, The Grand Canyon. Magnificent. Spectacular. I am in awe of God's creativity and ingenious work on this place we call earth. Another trip will be made and next time I plan to hike down this canyon. Anyone care to join me? ;)
Dad found this posted at Hermit's Rest, one of the many points surrounding the GC. Quite befitting, isn't it?
One of the many crimson sandstone towers in Sedona, AZ. Absolutely breathtaking.
HHB and TB's poor attempt to imitate the sandstone structures in the background. I'd say it was an effect from ingesting too much refried beans earlier, at the Mexican Restaurant.
Lastly, we've got his highness, Mickey, perched atop his leather throne. I could only wish for a life like that.
So there you have it folks. A pictorial account of our "After Christmas Family Road Trip". For those who actually parused through this particular entry, my thanks to you. Really. From the bottom of my heart. Really.
I would love to blog some occurrences which took place earlier this evening with FK, HHB, and TB. Blogworthy experiences. However, it's 2AM and I really need to hit the sack. Don't worry, what transpired tonight is too good to pass up, so stay tuned.......


